Proverbs 15:1 in the Bible reads as, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Most times, if not all the time, when we argue, The Husband will be the first to apologize. Even though most of the time, I stir up the trouble. I appreciate this part of him very much, that he sincerely looks to understand in what way he was at fault and takes responsibility of it by apologizing first. And I learnt in a major way from him, it doesn’t even matter who is right and who is wrong, there is nothing to win in conflicts.
And it never ceases to amaze and astound me, the power of a sincere sorry. It compels forgiveness to respond and sincere forgiveness, when given in equal measure, can melt the heart hardened with bitterness and anger and release the spirit to just move on and focus on what comes after.
When we talked about managing conflicts at the start of the marriage, he said that he was reminded by his father and my father, hearing in their words and actions, how sometimes you just have to let it go. The wisdom from men and God has served him well and tide through the more challenging moments with me so far 😁